I hate the way you talk to me
And the way you cut your hair
I hate the way you drive my car
I hate it when you stare
I hate your big dumb combat boots
And the way you read my mind
I hate you so much it makes me sick –
It even makes me rhyme
I hate the way you’re always right
I hate it when you lie
I hate it when you make me laugh –
Even worse when you make me cry
I hate it that you’re always not around
And the fact that you didn’t call
But mostly i hate the way
I don’t hate you –
Not even close, not even a little bit, not any at all
Friday, September 7, 2007
Silly story
“........We fail to acknowledge our differences is that while we were growing up, begin different meant begin laughed or rejected. We are afraid that someone will come along and correct us or judge us as wrong, bad or inadequate. Insecure people are everywhere and quite automatically pounce on anyone who starts to step out and be themselves. For this reason, differences can be seen as threat.
The true differences between men and women are actually complementary, giving each the opportunity to find balance. There complementary differences are what draw us to each other and create the mysterious feeling we call love.....”
After reading the above text from a book, it just strikes me on this guy whom I know recently. We know each other thru business relationship. We have a different characters and working attitude. I’m a workaholic whereas he is a person who enjoys life.
He is a caring person towards me and he will never end his concern towards me especially when i devoted my time to work then other things else.
He always told me to spend more time with others, relaxation, aiming for the work-life balance then devoting myself to work and nothing else... hahah.... maybe because of his wordings and the charm he have when he is enjoying his life, my feeling have unconsciously grew..
Initially, i did ask him why he show so much of concern towards me, well, he only mention he just don’t feel good when i devote myself to work. At that point of time i really assume he do feel for me like i do for him.
For the remaining 2 months, despite how busy and stress up, he will always be my energy booster and boost up my energy and be positive again to face the challenge. Sadly my energy booster didn’t last long...
After he return back from his business trip, we hardly contact each others. After which, i realise the reason he get close with me and treat me nice is due to the business relationship that we have and nothing else.
Well, i’m really feel begin silly at that point of time after knowing it but my level of feeling for him is above average and i do feel hurt when i know the news.
I tried to find out the truth from him but he shut me off but saying i think too much. After which, i didn’t contact him anymore expect for working matters.
After the incident, i have change. During those months when we are happily together, i learn to enjoy life.
Even now, i know the truth, i still want to thank him for giving such a hurtful lesson and how to enjoy my life as well......
The true differences between men and women are actually complementary, giving each the opportunity to find balance. There complementary differences are what draw us to each other and create the mysterious feeling we call love.....”
After reading the above text from a book, it just strikes me on this guy whom I know recently. We know each other thru business relationship. We have a different characters and working attitude. I’m a workaholic whereas he is a person who enjoys life.
He is a caring person towards me and he will never end his concern towards me especially when i devoted my time to work then other things else.
He always told me to spend more time with others, relaxation, aiming for the work-life balance then devoting myself to work and nothing else... hahah.... maybe because of his wordings and the charm he have when he is enjoying his life, my feeling have unconsciously grew..
Initially, i did ask him why he show so much of concern towards me, well, he only mention he just don’t feel good when i devote myself to work. At that point of time i really assume he do feel for me like i do for him.
For the remaining 2 months, despite how busy and stress up, he will always be my energy booster and boost up my energy and be positive again to face the challenge. Sadly my energy booster didn’t last long...
After he return back from his business trip, we hardly contact each others. After which, i realise the reason he get close with me and treat me nice is due to the business relationship that we have and nothing else.
Well, i’m really feel begin silly at that point of time after knowing it but my level of feeling for him is above average and i do feel hurt when i know the news.
I tried to find out the truth from him but he shut me off but saying i think too much. After which, i didn’t contact him anymore expect for working matters.
After the incident, i have change. During those months when we are happily together, i learn to enjoy life.
Even now, i know the truth, i still want to thank him for giving such a hurtful lesson and how to enjoy my life as well......
Friday, July 27, 2007
Men and Women - Handling Stress
Real love is unconditional. It does not demand but affirms and values. Unconditional love is not possible without the recognition and acceptance of our differences. As long as we mistakenly believe that our loved ones would be thinking, feeling and behaving the way we do, true love is obstructed.
Relationship are so puzzling because we mistakenly assume that our partners are like us. To some extend they are, but in many important aspects they are different.
Problems arise when we expect another to think, feel and behave the way we do.
When under stress, men tend to prioritize and focus on what is more urgent. The drawback to this kind of stress reaction is that they forgot other responsibilities or attach little importance to them.
When a man has spent the whole day solving this problems and that problem and is feeling stress, he will come home and, like the healthy man that he is, he will go into his crave (private space).
Under stress, women tend to become more acutely aware of the variety of problems and demands begin placed upon them. To become oblivious to the needs of someone she cares about in order to fully focus on solving problem at work is not one of her common experiences. Thus, it is hard for her to trust that he really care about her.
For women, the way to feel better is to talk. Women need to talk in order to find balance and wholeness.
The difficulty you and your partner face is that if you talk to him about your problems, his inherent nature is to give you solutions. A that moment, getting solutions is not going to make a women feel better. What she is looking for is empathy, someone to hear her.
In general ways, men and women differ from each other.
Relationship are so puzzling because we mistakenly assume that our partners are like us. To some extend they are, but in many important aspects they are different.
Problems arise when we expect another to think, feel and behave the way we do.
When under stress, men tend to prioritize and focus on what is more urgent. The drawback to this kind of stress reaction is that they forgot other responsibilities or attach little importance to them.
When a man has spent the whole day solving this problems and that problem and is feeling stress, he will come home and, like the healthy man that he is, he will go into his crave (private space).
Under stress, women tend to become more acutely aware of the variety of problems and demands begin placed upon them. To become oblivious to the needs of someone she cares about in order to fully focus on solving problem at work is not one of her common experiences. Thus, it is hard for her to trust that he really care about her.
For women, the way to feel better is to talk. Women need to talk in order to find balance and wholeness.
The difficulty you and your partner face is that if you talk to him about your problems, his inherent nature is to give you solutions. A that moment, getting solutions is not going to make a women feel better. What she is looking for is empathy, someone to hear her.
In general ways, men and women differ from each other.
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