Men and Women - Handling Stress

Real love is unconditional. It does not demand but affirms and values. Unconditional love is not possible without the recognition and acceptance of our differences. As long as we mistakenly believe that our loved ones would be thinking, feeling and behaving the way we do, true love is obstructed.

Relationship are so puzzling because we mistakenly assume that our partners are like us. To some extend they are, but in many important aspects they are different.

Problems arise when we expect another to think, feel and behave the way we do.

When under stress, men tend to prioritize and focus on what is more urgent. The drawback to this kind of stress reaction is that they forgot other responsibilities or attach little importance to them.

When a man has spent the whole day solving this problems and that problem and is feeling stress, he will come home and, like the healthy man that he is, he will go into his crave (private space).

Under stress, women tend to become more acutely aware of the variety of problems and demands begin placed upon them. To become oblivious to the needs of someone she cares about in order to fully focus on solving problem at work is not one of her common experiences. Thus, it is hard for her to trust that he really care about her.

For women, the way to feel better is to talk. Women need to talk in order to find balance and wholeness.

The difficulty you and your partner face is that if you talk to him about your problems, his inherent nature is to give you solutions. A that moment, getting solutions is not going to make a women feel better. What she is looking for is empathy, someone to hear her.

In general ways, men and women differ from each other.